Christian Dating Advice
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When dating, Christians have to decide whether their desire to find a partner is rooted in a genuine wish to engage in a loving relationship in front of God or whether it is motivated by the baser, human instinct of lust. On top of that it is essential to keep God in the relationship and not leave Him behind as you pursue the human you love. It is these moral dilemmas that tax and confuse young Christians who, naturally enough, want to love and be loved by someone special.The first step towards solving the Christian dating problem is to be able to banish all traces of peer pressure from your mind. Although there is nothing wrong with your wish to date, it is wrong for you to be propelled by others who do not share your belief in God. If you follow their path, you will lose your faith and that would, indeed, be a terrible tragedy. Never allow the flesh to dominate the heart.
Having taken charge of your body and mind, as a Christian, you must accept that while there may be attractive or seemingly good partners available to you, if these do not share your Christian beliefs then you will not be entering into a proper Christian relationship that can be blessed by God. You may also be subjected to pressure by them to commit a mortal sin.
No, if your relationship is to work, then you must both be Christians who share the same moral standards. That way, you will keep sight of your identity as a Christian throughout the dating process and you will retain your faith.
Once you have found your likely life-partner, you should discuss what constitutes acceptable 'romantic' behaviour. Obviously pre-marital sex is a no-no and a mortal sin but kissing and cuddling are normally deemed merely to be physical displays of affection and, provided that they are kept within bounds of decency and do not lead on to sexual gratification, are perfectly acceptable in the eyes of God.
It may be that one of the reasons that you have held off dating until you are older is that you are concerned about the inner weakness of youth which may have caused you to pressure your partner into a full sexual relationship. It is true that as you get older, the romantic and loving side of a relationship becomes more important than the sexual side. As a young Christian, this may be the way forward for you but you will have to endure a considerable amount of peer pressure to get involved with unsuitable or non-Christian partners.
Although marriage in the eyes of God must be the end goal, there is true merit in being single. It gives you as a Christian an opportunity to sort out your own beliefs, morality and the time and space to develop a lasting love for God. If this relationship is not in place before you start dating then you are going to have problems with your human partner and, whatever happens, God should always come first.
In summary, our Christian dating advice is:
- Know yourself first
- Fully comprehend your place with God
- Don't bow to peer pressure to date non-Christians
- Waiting until you are ready to date is OK
- Join an online Christian dating service
- Discuss faith and morality with your partner
- Never get pushed into sexual intercourse
- God is always part of any relationship