How to get a date
Still not sure about how to get a date? Here are some more
ideas for finding the partner of your dreams
Learn how to listen
You may be the most interesting person on the planet but you will never
keep someone interested in you if all you do is talk about yourself. Give the
other person 'air-time' and listen attentively even if you are twitching on
your seat wanting to tell them a funny anecdote of your own. Don't do it until
they've finished their story and you've commented on it.
Don't play hard to get
If you really want to succeed in the dating game then like it or not you
will have to wear your heart on your sleeve sometimes. No matter how terrible
an experience you had with a previous partner, no-one wants a cold fish who
doesn't display either emotion or enthusiasm in the prospect of dating them.
Take a deep breath, throw caution to the wind and dive in feet first. It's the
only way.
Give positive feedback
If you've had a good time chatting online, at the restaurant, even standing
in a bus queue together, say so!
Save the best for last
Be positive, welcoming, show you are interested in the other person but
don't give all the best goods away on your first date. Always suggest there is
more to you and let them come back to get it (back to the first prize theory
again).
Don't go where you aren't wanted
If you've given it your best shot and the other person has only responded
in a cool or otherwise less than welcoming manner then give up and look in
another direction. Chasing after someone who blatantly is not interested in
reciprocating will only make you look cheap, pathetic or sinister and will
definitely end in heartache or worse. It is not negative-thinking to know when
to give up.
Being turned down is not the end of the world
No matter how much you fancied the other person, they may not fancy you in
return. If you get turned down, shrug your shoulders and move on to the next
challenge. Don't take it personally - it either isn't intended to be so or, if
it was designed to hurt your feelings, then you are infinitely better off
without that person.
Remember that it is a numbers game
Dating is a lottery. There is an old feminist saying that you have to kiss
a lot of frogs to find your prince. It is very true. Successful, hardcore
pick-up artists who count partners by the score, only succeed because they
have grown a hide that would do justice to an elderly rhino. The correct
attitude is 'Oh, OK, you aren't interested then. Well, what about your
friend?'
Don't talk about your last partner
If you want to turn your prospective date off, there is no better way. Even
suggesting that your new girlfriend might like to see your collection of toy
soldiers or your new boyfriend be interested in playing with your Cindy dolls,
won't rival the lead balloon that stories about an old flame constitute. If
you are still in love with your ex, go home or go after them. If not, forget
about them and move on.
Don't have preconceived ideas
OK, so you have always dated short girls, liked men with blue eyes and so
on. Those are unimportant criteria. What matters is how strong a bond exists
between you. It is hard enough finding the 'right person' without adding
irrelevant conditions that only serve to potentially eliminate possible
candidates. In any case, sometimes a change is a good as a rest.
Be there, be seen but don't go looking
If you look you will never find and you will also appear lacking in
confidence. Remember you must be attainable and neither 'impossible' nor
'easy'. That way will boost your sex appeal and render you irresistible to
potential dates.