How to tell if someone
fancies you
How do you decide if your partner finds you attractive? Here
are ten simple tests to see how much they fancy you.
Your partner wants to 'Go Dutch' with you
This gesture can easily be misunderstood but what it is really saying is
that your partner doesn't wish to be perceived as being mean (in the case of
the woman) or out to buy love or sex (in the case of the man). An offer to
share the cost is a good thing and shows that your partner is interested in
you.
Your date talks gibberish
A common problem when the heart has taken the communication role away from
the brain. Burbling meaningless and boring anecdotes does not imply low
intelligence, it means that your partner finds you romantically appealing and
has temporarily lost the ability to be cogent.
Your date suddenly goes silent
If you aren't experiencing the burbling of gibberish, you might get this,
the other extreme. Awkward silences do not indicate a lack of things to say,
it suggests that your partner wants to impress you but feels daunted at the
prospect. If he or she were truly disinterested in your company, they would
have left. Take charge of the conversation and ask them simple questions and
you will find that your date will settle down and begin to feel more confident
with you.
Your date teases you
We are all teenagers at heart and this is a typical schoolboy/schoolgirl
'crush' situation. Remember when you were that age - we bet you teased the
ones you fancied. A first date is a high stress situation and your partner has
reverted to this 'first love' condition. Don't respond in kind or lose your
temper and do bear with them - you should be pleasantly surprised.
Your date appears to be sitting or standing in a stiff position as if they are
ill-at-ease in your company
Psychologists have shown that when we are trying to impress someone, we
subconsciously attempt to improve our posture by either expanding our chests
or by arching our backs, depending upon the gender. The stiffness you see is a
measure of your date's desire to appeal to you. Rejoice in it.
On a group date, they are flirting with your friend
This is likely to be neither a case of attempting to make you jealous nor
is it a measure of how much they fancy your friend. The hidden message is that
your date wants your friend to tell you how wonderful your date is in order to
see if you are interested or not. Don't be jealous, don't fall out with your
friend and just play it cool. Your sex appeal will go up by leaps and bounds.
On a group date their friend tries to flirt with you
No doubt this is partly an attempt to see how fickle you might be but it is
also designed to get you 'turned on' and receptive to the real purpose of the
play - to get you in the mood for a move from your date. You can be certain
that the whole event has been engineered in advance and the flirting comes
with the full approval of your partner. If they can put that much effort into
the date then he or she must be interested in you.
Your partner calls you up afterwards and seems to have been unimpressed by the date
This was just an excuse to speak to you. If it had been that terrible an
experience, your date would want to forget you as quickly as possible. No,
this is just an easy way of seeing how much you fancy them by putting you on
the back-foot. Go with it but don't be too apologetic - that would not be
appropriate.