Understanding that concept is the most important part of understanding what
constitutes the non-verbal side of flirting. This type of flirting is a subconscious
application of body language principles. There is also the verbal side of
flirting which we shall look at later since the physical side usually comes
first.
But what elements of body language can be used as part of the flirting process?
Eyes
- Extended contact period
- Deliberate avoidance of eye contact
- Pupils dilating
- Eyebrows arching
- Winking
- REM (Rapid Eye Movement)
- Blinking
Hair
- Flicking backwards
- Playing with hair
Mouth
- Smiling
- Pouting
- Licking lips
- Touching teeth with the tongue
Torso
- Thrusting chest forward
- Leaning towards the other
- Mirroring posture
- Sitting open-legged
- Touching
- Fidgeting
- Nervousness
- Shifting weight from one leg to another
There is also the verbal side to flirting which consists of:
- Pointed conversation about ongoing relationships
- Laughing
- Whispering
- Speaking slowly or softly
- Suggesting when you are free
Flirting is the process by which you let the other person know that you
are interested in them - it should make them feel good about being wanted
even if the interest in you is not reciprocated. Therefore, you need to
respect their feelings. Make sure you don't.
- Cause embarrassment by flirting when they are clearly busy with other people
- Make the flirting aggressive or disrespectful
- Use sexually suggestive gestures or vocabulary
- Continue flirting after the other person has indicated their rejection of your advances
- Place overdue importance in the flirting - if it doesn't work, so-be-it
- Give the other person problems by flirting in front of their current partner
Remember also that someone who has been labelled 'flirtatious' is not
an attractive proposition. It sounds like he or she is lacking in commitment
and will try to attach to anyone new who happens to take their fancy. It
does not suggest the type of person who is mature enough for a relationship.
If you want to be successful at flirting remember that to keep it light.
That means, don't set your hopes too high, keep it light and always smile.
Apart from protecting your own feelings, that will also give you the highest
probability of success.
Good luck with your dating. We hope you found our tips helpful for learning how to flirt.