How can I spot if my girlfriend having an affair?
Do you feel like you might be being cuckolded? Two's company and
three's a crowd as they say. You want to know if she's cheating but how
can you be sure?
You and your girlfriend have settled into a comfortable relationship and
you are quite content with the way things are progressing. You may be
planning to get engaged or even married and you have been quite looking
forward to being the family person. Suddenly you feel a cold wind of
change blow through your relationship. You can't quite put your finger on
it but you ask yourself 'Is my girlfriend having an affair?'. Obviously we
can't answer that question for you but we can give you some indicators
that will quantify your fears.
So, if you're not sure how can you spot your girlfriend is
cheating? Here are some of the ways in
which can indicate that there is someone else in her life.
Conversation
Are you finding that whereas once upon a time you could
talk for hours but now she struggles to talk to you and, when you try to
start a conversation, you either get a monosyllabic response or your head
bitten off? Maybe she's found someone else to share her thoughts with or
maybe she's afraid that the one thing she wants to talk about is her new
love.
Appearance
Is your girlfriend developing a 'Jekyll and Hyde' approach to her
sartorial state? Is she lounging around the house in old jeans and a
grubby tee-shirt and then going 'out' to some undisclosed or dubious
destination made up and dressed to kill? Perhaps she doesn't feel she
needs to impress you but there is someone she does.
Furtive behaviour
Has she suddenly started passwording her files, deleting emails and
emptying the recycle bin immediately, suddenly hanging the phone up when
you come in the room or walking off to answer her cell phone in private
when you come near? This could all be innocent - maybe she's planning a
big surprise for you - but then, again, it might not be.
Work commitments
Does the office suddenly need her presence far more than it used to?
Does she have to go off to attend courses which mysteriously don't seem to
have much paperwork or notes to go with it? Maybe she's pretending to be
at work while she sees someone new or maybe, even, that other person's
works in the same office. Of course, it could be that she is genuinely
busy, coming home tired and that explains everything.
Affection
Have she stopped those little gestures such as touching hands, giving
you a peck on the cheek, patting you on the shoulder as she walks past?
Maybe she has stopped calling you 'honey-bun' or 'sugar' or whatever
endearment term she uses for you. If so, then she may be subconsciously
finding physical contact with you distasteful and something to be
minimised if possible. Try taking the lead and see if she shies away or
reciprocates.
Sex
Even if the frequency of your love-making has not altered, has the
passion started to wane? While it is quite normal for the white heat of
youth to be replaced with a simmering red hot feeling as you get older, it
may have cooled a bit prematurely. Is the sex a bit cursory or dutiful? Do
you get the impression she's 'somewhere else'? If so, then she may be
saving her real passion for someone else. On the other hand, she might be
just tired or bored with same old routine.
You need to carefully and analytically evaluate your relationship.
Remember, a good one is hard to keep alive at the
best of times without having to deal with a third party although you need
to be careful you don't lose her by making a false accusation. We hope you now have
some ideas for an answer to how can I spot if my girlfriend is having an affair.